Benjamin Teixeira de Aguiar
by the Spirit Eugênia
Perfect your character, a little every day. Start with simple issues: the exaggerated emotion to be contained, the softened sorrow, the restrained euphoria. Then think of more relevant issues, e.g., the depth of your love, the quality of your feelings, the nature of your purposes, the size and moral priority of your existential guidelines.
Do not be reluctant to do your best. You can win, if you really want. But count on little progresses every day. It is not easy to enrich one spiritually. The psychological maturity itself happens little by little. Expect little of yourself, but be constant.
Finally, dedicate yourself to small initiatives of love: a fraternal gesture of friendship, a handshake, a long and friendly look, patience with who fumbles with the words, stumbling on grammar or even in the memory of lost facts; tolerance with the fellow partner of destiny that does not give his best or cannot give more, not in line with our expectations, in a certain circumstance.
You have a good side in yourself, which must be processed as well as an obscure face, to be retracted, by the continued boldness in always doing more and better. The psychological preparation, from the shadow to the bright side of the personality, is a lifelong endeavor that deserves special care, but without the pathetic paranoia of those who want to do everything at once. The spirit of gradation of nature must be respected if we aim some success in this complex and delicate undertaking.
Suspend now the mourning for not being all you would like to be, for not performing all that you idealize. There are limits on your evolutionary structure, as well as on that of others, including for your own evolution. Explaining better: within a given space of time, it is not possible to do everything you can imagine, although you can improve the utilization of the period and grow faster. But this rapid spiritual progress also has limits, according to the psychic framework of achievements made by the individual in the course of their previous reincarnations.
So, dear friend, be consistent with this reality and do not struggle anymore with accepting the mental, emotional and moral narrowness of others and yours. To be realistic with the human being is to never forget his fallibility, as well as his ambiguity and even malevolence in some respects – i.e.: undesirable, awkward and dark side that always pervades the best virtues, as much as the value of good is present, although at low doses, also in the inkiest characters.
You will be happy if you choose to be so; and no one is happy trying to be what one is not, or requiring others to be what they are not. Being happy starts by accepting ourselves as we are, although incorporating some continued effort – but gentle to the idiosyncrasies, the inseparable specifics of you and, respecting the same in others.
Text received on July 30, 2000.