Sex, Aggressiveness and Their Relation (Short Answers from the Spirits – 04).
Benjamin Teixeira de Aguiar
by the Spirit Guide Gustavo Henrique
Q: Delano Mothé: Could you make a comparative study on sexual attraction and aggressiveness?
A: The Spirit Eugênia is helping me with this question. Regrettably, there is in human nature – and psychoanalysis is rich in this particular matter – very deep connections between sexual aggressiveness (this is so true that the expression was created) and non sexual aggressiveness, because sexuality happens to be a waste pipe, a drainpipe to aggressiveness, but sexuality could express itself apart from aggressiveness.
Some people, mainly men, when in a non aggressive posture, lose sexual attraction. That’s why, my dear friends, sometimes you are in a loving and peaceful period in the relationship with your spouse and they become sexually colder. It’s because they have no reason to want to punish you through sex – that is what men unconsciously feel. The male sexual organ has a function similar to that of a weapon with which he imagines himself to be hitting his prey or his element of punishment.
It’s not every man who has the emotional and unconscious maturity to understand sex as an instrument of giving love and not of punishment. Regrettably, the same happens with some women – not so much, but it still does. It happens less in women, so that when they are upset with their spouses, partners, boyfriends, etc. – because now there is this modern mode. Isn’t it Delano? Unmarried people having sex (I’m joking, my friends. Have sex at will! Not totally at will! It cannot be totally at will, or it would be the beast turned loose in the city. It can’t be this way; we have to control and educate the inner animal.).
So, when a woman is upset, she doesn’t feel like having sex, while the man barely finishes arguing and he is already ready for sex. It’s to seal peace, he says. Do not believe him; he wants to punish her, to punish them.
Some men will be upset with me, Delano, because I exposed them in public. What happens is that unconsciously men discharge their rivalry and conflict with the female element through sex, therefore when they are tense they have sex to feel relaxed while women need to relax in order to have sex.